Unhealed Emotional Wounds From Family Of Origin Affect All Our Relationships

Many people grew up in homes where they were not treated with love, kindness, compassion, and understanding which lead them to the false impression that they were unlovable.  The first five years of a child’s life are critical because during this time they develop their level of self-esteem (balanced and healthy or negative and unhealthy), personal boundaries (healthy or unhealthy), ability to communicate effectively (or not), understanding of the importance of cooperation, and their view of authority.  When we develop relationships with others we subconsciously pick what we’re familiar with (functional or dysfunctional).  When we continue to have dysfunctional relationships it’s time to examine our own level of self-esteem, develop and maintain healthy personal boundaries, hold ourselves and others accountable, and do what’s necessary to heal our childhood emotional wounds.  The better the relationship we have with ourselves the better the relationships will be that we have with others.

HOW TO HEAL FAMILY OF ORIGIN ISSUES FOR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF AND OTHERS

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Being Able To Forgive Requires Honesty, Humility, Reasonableness & Healthy Boundaries

It makes sense to forgive ourselves and others because no one is perfect.  It takes humility, honesty, reasonableness, and courage to admit when we are wrong, ask for forgiveness, and change our behavior to give evidence of our remorse.  Healthy personal boundaries enable us to respect the rights of others and to stand up for our own rights when necessary.  Healthy boundaries also allow us to be flexible and open to reconciliation but separate us from those who can’t respect themselves or us.

The Power Of Forgiveness

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Belief In Yourself & Your Abilities Can Improve Your Relationships

If you can appreciate the wonderful skills that you have you’ll also be able to see the amazing skills that those around you also possess.  Complementing and acknowledging the fine accomplishments of others can strengthen the relationship you have with them.  When people feel loved and supported in words and deeds they are less likely to have a problem acknowledging mistakes and correcting them.  A healthy level of self-esteem helps us to appreciate that we are no better or worse than anyone else.  When we use words that are uplifting and palatable people feel more comfortable communicating with us.  If you keep looking for the good in others you’ll definitely find it and help them to believe in themselves and their abilities.  HOW TO HEAL FAMILY OF ORIGIN ISSUES FOR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF AND OTHERS 51C-0kyejvL._SX312_BO1,204,203,200_

Be The Type Of Person You Want To Attract

 

Most people want to be surrounded by individuals who are loving, thoughtful, kind, forgiving, understanding, generous, & trustworthy yet these same people fail many times to realize that they themselves must possess these same qualities in order to attract these wonderful individuals.  People who love and respect themselves possess healthy personal boundaries, have a good level of self-esteem, and do and say things that build others up rather than tearing them down.  We attract who we are because we gravitate towards others who share our same values.  Emotionally healthy individuals don’t allow others to disrespect them in word or deed and show others what self-respect looks like by maintaining healthy personal boundaries, seeking to work towards a resolution rather than blaming and relinquishing responsibility, and taking the lead in being reasonable, cooperative, and communicative.  If we can’t be honest with ourselves we won’t be able to maintain honesty, respect, & accountability in our relationships with others.

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There Can Be A Rainbow On The Other Side Of Surviving Child Abuse

Keep Conquering The Evil With The Good

Treating people who are nasty, rude, and hateful with kindness, love, and understanding and maintaining healthy boundaries is an indication that you are a reasonable person. Many mean and hateful people were abused growing up and have no idea what it means to be treated with kindness, to be held accountable for their actions, or to be told that they are worth something. Angry and hateful people are holding onto the anger from the past and keep displacing it onto others. Many angry people are also dealing with some form of cognitive distortion (i.e. depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, etc.) for which they haven’t received the necessary treatment. Returning bad behavior for bad behavior is foolish and accomplishes nothing good.  Since everything we say and do is filtered through our self-image it’s important to understand that hateful people hate themselves the most.  None of us can share with others what we ourselves don’t possess.  We have the power to be good examples by what we say and do.  Healthy boundaries will enable us to stop associating with people who don’t show respect for themselves or us and thus provide a lesson in what constitutes self-respect.  When you love and respect yourself you are more powerful than any hateful person because good behavior draws good people and their support to you while hateful people are left all alone with no trustworthy allies.  HOW TO TRANSITION SUCCESSFULLY FROM CO-DEPENDENCE TO BECOMING A BALANCED, HAPPY, & SUCCESSFUL INTERDEPENDENT PERSON

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