Constructive Ways To End Self-Sabotaging Behavior

Most people who engage in self-sabotaging behavior are seldom aware that that’s what they are doing until it’s too late and the damage has already been done.  Where does self-sabotaging behavior come from and how can one successfully replace self-sabotaging behavior with behavior that is beneficial to oneself?  Those who grew up in abusive relationships and who suffer from some sort of untreated mental health challenge usually find it difficult to do and say things that result in good outcomes for them.  These same individuals find it hard to treat themselves well because they were never treated with love, respect, and understanding within their family of origin.  In order to break the cycle of self-sabotaging behavior the individual must seek therapy and medication as needed.  Medication of the right type and dose can enable the individual to think clearly and rationally for the first time in their lives.  Therapy can help people understand that their primary caregivers also suffered from some type of untreated mental illness and had at one time been victims of abuse themselves.  Only understanding the truth about these things can set people free from the misery of the past.  Medication and therapy can also help people develop and maintain healthy personal boundaries for the first time in their lives.  It’s very important to learn how to say “no” without feeling guilty and also learn how to be comfortable hearing “no”.  People also need to understand that aggression is aggression whether it’s passive or not.  Moving beyond self-sabotaging behavior isn’t easy at first but it will get easier with practice.